“Behind the difficulty of must be the ease”

Many people could not through the difficulty days like, did not pass the exam, fired from the job, the divorce, failed the business, have many debts, have acute illness, etc.The inability to face the failure could make they were easy surrendered, embarrassed, angry, or frustation. So all of his life become “storm that never passed by” and finally created “the circle of evil”.

When we could not prevent the arrival of overcast days, how could be we face it positively. The success was always regarded as honorary, but the failure often considered as the humility. However in fact there was no success that achieved without through the process of learning from the failure of the past. The term of “success in one night” in fact almost had not been in the real world.

Since the early age of the child must be taught that everyone had experienced difficulty days and the failure, but not aimless. The failure and the difficulty could bring them to the success gate.

The failure must be looked as the stepping stone not as red light the stopping signal. Thomas Alva Edison that created glowing light, or Henry Ford of the creator of the car, could be so successful through the failure repeatedly and never surrendered to continue to try.

Motivated the child to see the success and the failure in the true perspective indeed not the matter was easy. Occasionally as parents or the teacher, we often criticised even punished them who failed to gain the achievement that was hoped for, although that matter was based by the good intention. In fact childhood and the adolescent were important period to develop the feeling of the self-confidence. They self confidence still fragile, and if we often criticised they failure, the feeling of their self-confidence will be destroyed.

A baby did not know how to walk, but he will continue to try with the difficult process; fall down repeatedly, crying, possibly the bump in the head. But was no one criticised and punished him,. Available only empathy, huge and the expression love when he cried because of fall down, and applause when he could take a step.

If there were parents punished a baby when falldown when learning to walk, then he will stop and did not want to try again, possibly he will become a paralysed person .

The, children and the adolescent must be taught to look the failure become two positive views, that is:
(1) as the mistake that could be correct
(2) as the opportunity to learn from the mistake in taking a step in the future.

The more they could accept the failure as the opportunity to study, then will be increase they motivation to accept the new challenge. No matter how small the success will be increase they self-confidence and their enthusiasm to exploring the life .